“I basically sat her down, because she was old enough at the time to listen to me. I came from an abusive childhood. That’s why I went into fostering myself. So I explained to her about the control my father had over all of us and my mother -about the domestic violence, about the poverty. And I explained to her that for my mother, that wasn’t a positive, loving relationship. However, it didn’t make my father a bad person. My father had been parented similar. I said just some people are not good parents. It doesn’t make them bad people. Parenting doesn’t come with a manual. She visits me now with her own child.”